Just weeks before Obama's visit to Kenya, the United States Supreme Court made same-sex marriage legal all across America and Kenyans reacted! Politicians made it clear that Obama should steer clear of any gay talk on his visit here as DP, William Ruto made a statement to the effect that the country and its government will not accept homosexuality. Clergy and social media weighed in too as Pastor Kariuki led a protest against gay acceptance in Kenya and KoT (Kenyans on Twitter) sent out tweet messages to Obama with majority calling the act an abomination!Living in a glass house and throwing stones?I met up with one distressed mother who was brave enough to share her experience of raising a gay child. I didn't know what to expect when she called me and asked if she could share her story. She was hesitant to meet up in person but I persuaded her since I wanted to see and feel firsthand her emotions. Her main concern was for her safety and that of her children.In person she seemed uneasy even though we were at a public place. The 40-year-old mother of two kept on looking right and left as if she was hiding from someone. I reassured her that her identity will be kept confidential and slowly, she started opening up.WACHUKA: I have moved from three different towns all because I cannot find safety for my second born son. He was cursed the moment I gave birth to him; he was cursed because he was born gay in this country. His safety is my main concern.KENYABUZZ: Why speak up now?WACHUKA: I was watching the news the other day when there was a protest against the gay community and I couldn't believe that Bishop Mark Kariuki, a man I have always admired and a man of God was the leader of such hypocrisy. I have watched his services on TV ever since and now I feel hopeless in knowing that my son will never be accepted even among the righteous.KENYABUZZ: When did you realize that your child was gay?WACHUKA: From the moment he could talk and walk I noticed my son was different. He was different from my first born son but no two siblings are born alike. He was interested in different things from other children in the neighbourhood. It finally hit me when I had a rumour about him from other mums (you know women and gossip). That's when I weighed on the issue and I knew that one day I will have to face it.KENYABUZZ: What did the rumours say?WACHUKA: That I was raising an ungodly child and that if I were tougher on him while he was younger then maybe he would not turn out the way he is.KENYABUZZ: How did you react?WACHUKA: I wanted to change him. My mission was to turn him into the most masculine man the world has  ever seen. I started hinting that he should try out sports, mostly football... He did and not only did he like it, he gave it his all but that did not stop the talking and rumours. His dad left me when he was just seven. We had our own marital problems but I couldn't help but think that it was because of our little boy; maybe he was also tired of the chants behind our backs.Later I moved with my son back to my mum's house hoping that she will be better at nurturing him but my son was always himself. He would always act in a manner that we felt was the true definition of masculinity but at the end of the day, he was always himself.KENYABUZZ: What was your worst experience [in context]?WACHUKA: I am not the victim, he is... I am just the woman who decided to stick by him no matter what. He did not choose this life and every day he has to hide. The law in the country does not favour him, the law in religious books justify why he should be killed and tortured and the society shuns him. He is forced to think twice... thrice before airing an opinion even if it is as simple as liking a certain genre of music because someone might pick on him.KENYABUZZ: What comments do you have for other mothers in your position?WACHUKA: Teach your child how to love themselves because no one else will. The politicians and social leaders will only initiate change when it suits them but a mum's acceptance will triumph all the outsiders opinion.KENYABUZZ: What is your message to the leaders and critics?WACHUKA: It's not a choice; no one chooses a life where they are always disdained. If it is unnatural, why do we apply deodorant and perfume while grooming? Shouldn't we just smell like the animals we are? Why do drive cars when it's natural to walk? What exactly is natural in our civilized society?Being gay is not ungodly and if you quote Leviticus 20:13, I will quote Mathew 5:21. Being gay is not foreign. It's not entirely a Coca Cola influence from the West. Same-sex relations and even marriage existed in various traditional African societies. So while you get consumed in all this fuss remember that one day the stone will land on your glass house.MORE: Homosexual Life in Kenya